Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.
Religion and its Contradictions
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
What it means to be an ally
I have these friends, Chris & Melissa, who happen to pastor an evangelical church in my small conservative home town. They are an amazing couple who I became friends with through my old blog and after I was already out as trans. Chris and Melissa are the most real and genuinely accepting couple I’ve ever …
