About Dean
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
For much of my life, I became the person I thought I needed to be.
I worked hard to meet expectations, keep the peace, and build a life that looked right from the outside. Like many people, I learned to put other people’s needs ahead of my own. I became very good at surviving—but somewhere along the way, I lost touch with myself.
It took years, several major life transitions, and a lot of intentional work to realize something important:
The life I wanted couldn’t be built by abandoning myself.
Today, I’m a queer transgender coach who helps queer and trans people reconnect with themselves, trust their own voice, and build lives that feel authentic—not just acceptable.
Why I do this work
I know what it’s like to question everything you thought your life would be.
I’ve experienced profound change, grief, loss, and growth. I’ve navigated religious trauma, rebuilt my identity, transitioned later in life, raised a family, and learned what it means to create a life that reflects my values instead of other people’s expectations.
Those experiences don’t make me an expert on your life.
But they do mean I understand what it feels like to start over, to wrestle with uncertainty, and to wonder whether it’s possible to build a life that finally feels like your own.
That’s why I coach.
Not because I have all the answers, but because I’ve learned that lasting change begins when we stop trying to become who everyone else expects us to be.
My approach to coaching
I don’t believe you’re broken.
I believe many of us developed ways of surviving that once protected us but now keep us stuck.
People-pleasing.
Perfectionism.
Avoiding conflict.
Ignoring our own needs.
Second-guessing every decision.
These patterns often helped us get through difficult seasons of life. But eventually, they stop serving us.
Coaching isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you understand those patterns, reconnect with your values, and move toward the life you actually want to live.
Our work together is practical, honest, and compassionate. I’ll ask thoughtful questions, offer perspective, challenge you when needed, and celebrate your growth along the way.
Why queer and trans coaching?
One of the things my clients tell me most often is that they feel understood.
As a queer transgender coach, I understand many of the experiences that shape our lives—not because every queer or trans person’s journey is the same, but because I know what it’s like to navigate a world that doesn’t always make space for you to be fully yourself.
That means you don’t have to spend your coaching sessions explaining the basics of your identity, your relationships, or your lived experience.
We can start where you are.
And together, we can focus on where you want to go.
A few things that matter to me
I believe…
- You are worthy of belonging without pretending to be someone you’re not.
- Your life doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be meaningful.
- Growth happens through curiosity, not shame.
- Small, consistent changes create lasting transformation.
- You are allowed to change your mind, rewrite your story, and choose a different path.
Outside of coaching
When I’m not coaching, you’ll often find me creating spaces for queer and trans community to connect, learning something new, or having meaningful conversations over coffee.
Community has been an important part of my own journey, and I believe we heal and grow best when we know we don’t have to do it alone.
Let’s talk
If you’ve been carrying the weight of trying to figure everything out on your own, I’d love to help.
Whether you’re navigating a major transition, rebuilding after a difficult season, or simply ready to trust yourself more fully, coaching can give you the space, support, and tools to move forward.
Book a free consultation, and let’s explore what the next chapter of your life could look like.
