I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
How Parenting my Transgender Child Empowers me to Love and Accept my Transgender Self
I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in women’s spaces A …
My First 18 Months on Testosterone
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
My First Three Months on Testosterone
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here you may want to start at the beginning of my journey. If that interests you, click here 😊 The day I received my prescription July 9, 2019, I’m sitting in my car holding a piece of paper I’d been waiting over a year for. Looking at the prescription in …
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Are You Trans? My Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
In this deeply personal post, Dean shares the journey of recognizing and accepting his transgender identity as an adult — and the fear, uncertainty, and inner work that came with it. From worrying about his role as a parent to untangling the complex relationship between gender identity and childhood trauma, Dean walks readers through the moments that ultimately led him to begin testosterone injections and step fully into his authentic self. But this post isn’t just about being transgender. It’s about the universal experience of hiding who you are — and what becomes possible when you stop. Through three key shifts (from performance to presence, external validation to internal navigation, and either/or to both/and thinking), Dean draws a powerful connection between his own self-discovery and the inner work that transforms anyone’s life. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by the fear of being truly seen, this post is for you.
