Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today Iโm writing about everything I wish Iโd known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual โ and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didnโt fit long after I thought Iโd figured myself out. This oneโs personal. If youโre somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think itโll land.
The Voice in Your Head Thatโs Not Actually Helping You
Saboteurs are mental patterns from our past that impact our present, particularly for queer and trans individuals. Understanding and addressing them can transform your life.
Full Circle: Why I Left Life Coaching, Went Back to University, and Came Back Knowing This Is Exactly Where I Belong
A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling โ queer and trans life coaching. There's a question I've been sitting with lately โ one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a …
โHire a Life Coach? In This Economy?โ
Life coaching might seem indulgent during tough economic times, but staying stuck costs more than you think. Smart, capable people drown in information, needing clarity, not more productivity hacks. When resources are limited, knowing your goals is crucialโstop wasting time and energy.
How Parenting my Transgender Child Empowers me to Love and Accept my Transgender Self
I donโt love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Donโt Believe in Gender?
If youโve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesnโt believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isnโt a real thing? Hmmm, ๐ค thatโs an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didnโt understand what they meant. If you havenโt read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in womenโs spaces A …
Empowered or Wallower? The choice is yours.
To wallow is in direct contradiction of feeling empowered and I for one choose empowerment. Are you ready to take control of your life? Are you ready to celebrate this one life youโve been given? Join me and letโs take a closer look at what it could mean to celebrate you!
My First 18 Months on Testosterone
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if youโre all caught up letโs jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
