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“That’s just who I am” sounds like self-awareness. Most of the time, it’s the most convincing lie we tell ourselves. Your personality and your survival strategy aren’t the same thing. Every pattern you carry made sense once. It kept you safe, loved, and functional in a world that asked too much of you too young. But a strength overused becomes the way you self-sabotage. And you’re not in that room anymore.
Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.
I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in women’s spaces A …
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here you may want to start at the beginning of my journey. If that interests you, click here 😊 The day I received my prescription July 9, 2019, I’m sitting in my car holding a piece of paper I’d been waiting over a year for. Looking at the prescription in …
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