I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
Grieving the Years I Lost: A Reckoning with Conversion Therapy
Discover the profound grief of living an unlived life. Learn how conversion therapy can erase years of your true self. A call to reckon with lost time and embrace authenticity.
The Real Reason Your Team Isn’t Thriving—And What to Do About It
Why psychological safety and inclusive leadership aren’t just buzzwords—they’re your business advantage. There’s something I see all the time in organizations—great people, with strong technical skills, doing their best… and still struggling.Struggling to retain top talent.Struggling to build cohesive teams.Struggling to create a culture where people truly want to stay and grow. If that feels …
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Pride Month: The Beautiful Complexity of Being Trans During Our “Celebration”
Pride Month arrives each June like a double-edged rainbow. On one hand, there's something powerful about seeing our community take up space, about rainbow flags flying proudly, about companies suddenly remembering we exist. On the other hand, being trans during Pride can feel like standing at the intersection of celebration and struggle, visibility and vulnerability. …
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How Parenting my Transgender Child Empowers me to Love and Accept my Transgender Self
I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in women’s spaces A …
Empowered or Wallower? The choice is yours.
To wallow is in direct contradiction of feeling empowered and I for one choose empowerment. Are you ready to take control of your life? Are you ready to celebrate this one life you’ve been given? Join me and let’s take a closer look at what it could mean to celebrate you!
My First 18 Months on Testosterone
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
