I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
How Parenting my Transgender Child Empowers me to Love and Accept my Transgender Self
I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in women’s spaces A …
Empowered or Wallower? The choice is yours.
To wallow is in direct contradiction of feeling empowered and I for one choose empowerment. Are you ready to take control of your life? Are you ready to celebrate this one life you’ve been given? Join me and let’s take a closer look at what it could mean to celebrate you!
My First 18 Months on Testosterone
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
Religion and its Contradictions
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
My First Three Months on Testosterone
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
My First Experience with a Life Coach
The first time I met a life coach was back in 1998, I was 20 years old and a newly single parent of a 5 month old. I had just moved back to my home town after leaving an abusive relationship and was receiving assistance from the government in order to get back on my …
