I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I was 39 years old when I finally understood that I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and more comfortable in women’s spaces A …
Religion and its Contradictions
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
My First Three Months on Testosterone
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
My First Experience with a Life Coach
The first time I met a life coach was back in 1998, I was 20 years old and a newly single parent of a 5 month old. I had just moved back to my home town after leaving an abusive relationship and was receiving assistance from the government in order to get back on my …
Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here you may want to start at the beginning of my journey. If that interests you, click here 😊 The day I received my prescription July 9, 2019, I’m sitting in my car holding a piece of paper I’d been waiting over a year for. Looking at the prescription in …
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What it means to be an ally
I have these friends, Chris & Melissa, who happen to pastor an evangelical church in my small conservative home town. They are an amazing couple who I became friends with through my old blog and after I was already out as trans. Chris and Melissa are the most real and genuinely accepting couple I’ve ever …
Are You Trans? My Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
By Dean Rasmussen Are You Trans? How My Journey of Self-Discovery Became My Greatest Life Lesson By Dean Rasmussen The Question That Changed Everything In March 2017, the woman I was dating asked me a simple question: “Are you trans?” I immediately said NO out loud. But in my head? My thoughts were screaming, “I …
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