Saboteurs are mental patterns from our past that impact our present, particularly for queer and trans individuals. Understanding and addressing them can transform your life.
The Voice in Your Head That’s Not Actually Helping You
Full Circle: Why I Left Life Coaching, Went Back to University, and Came Back Knowing This Is Exactly Where I Belong
A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling — queer and trans life coaching. There's a question I've been sitting with lately — one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a …
The Unpopular Truth About Being a Highly Sensitive Person or Empath
I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
“Hire a Life Coach? In This Economy?”
Life coaching might seem indulgent during tough economic times, but staying stuck costs more than you think. Smart, capable people drown in information, needing clarity, not more productivity hacks. When resources are limited, knowing your goals is crucial—stop wasting time and energy.
The Real Reason Your Team Isn’t Thriving—And What to Do About It
Why psychological safety and inclusive leadership aren’t just buzzwords—they’re your business advantage. There’s something I see all the time in organizations—great people, with strong technical skills, doing their best… and still struggling.Struggling to retain top talent.Struggling to build cohesive teams.Struggling to create a culture where people truly want to stay and grow. If that feels …
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Therapy Helped Me Heal. Coaching Helped Me Build a Life That Felt Like Mine.
Therapy can be life-changing, but sometimes healing isn’t the destination, it’s the beginning. In this post, I explore the difference between therapy and coaching, why lived experience matters, and how coaching can help queer and transgender people move from understanding themselves to building a life that truly feels like their own.
How Parenting my Transgender Child Empowers me to Love and Accept my Transgender Self
I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end of …
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Transitioning Later in Life: My Journey to Becoming Myself
What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.
