Category: Positive Intelligence

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Why You Keep Getting In Your Own Way (And What’s Actually Behind It)

There’s a moment most people recognize. You know what you need to do. You’ve known for a while. And yet you don’t do it. Most people call this self-sabotage. And they’re right. But what most people don’t know is why it happens. Or where it actually comes from. It’s not a willpower problem. It’s not a character flaw. It’s a pattern. And patterns, unlike character flaws, can change. In this post I’m breaking down what self-sabotage actually is, where it comes from, and the three targets most people don’t know about. Plus there’s a free webinar coming where we do this work together live.

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“That’s Just Who I Am”. The Truth Nobody Tells You About Your Personality

“That’s just who I am” sounds like self-awareness. Most of the time, it’s the most convincing lie we tell ourselves. Your personality and your survival strategy aren’t the same thing. Every pattern you carry made sense once. It kept you safe, loved, and functional in a world that asked too much of you too young. But a strength overused becomes the way you self-sabotage. And you’re not in that room anymore.

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ON LOVE, GROWTH & MENTAL FITNESS

Love is a powerful force that can transform lives. When we open ourselves up to receiving love, we allow it to heal and uplift us. But the path to self-love is not always easy. We must overcome our own doubts and fears, and learn to trust in our worth. By doing so, we can create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with ourselves and others.

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What I Know Now That I Wish I’d Known Then: The Coming Out Edition

Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.