It’s time to build a life that feels like yours
There’s a specific kind of stuck that isn’t hiding, and isn’t pretending either. It’s living out, just not fully open, because the people around you haven’t quite made room for all of who you are yet, so you hold part of yourself back to keep things comfortable.
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end of …
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What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
I have these friends, Chris & Melissa, who happen to pastor an evangelical church in my small conservative home town. They are an amazing couple who I became friends with through my old blog and after I was already out as trans. Chris and Melissa are the most real and genuinely accepting couple I’ve ever …
