What I Know Now That I Wish I’d Known Then: The Coming Out Edition

Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.

Full Circle: Why I Left Life Coaching, Went Back to University, and Came Back Knowing This Is Exactly Where I Belong

A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling — queer and trans life coaching. There's a question I've been sitting with lately — one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a …

“Hire a Life Coach? In This Economy?”

Life coaching might seem indulgent during tough economic times, but staying stuck costs more than you think. Smart, capable people drown in information, needing clarity, not more productivity hacks. When resources are limited, knowing your goals is crucial—stop wasting time and energy.

Transitioning Later in Life: My Journey to Becoming Myself

What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.