It’s time to build a life that feels like yours
A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling — queer and trans life coaching. There's a question I've been sitting with lately — one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a …
Life coaching might seem indulgent during tough economic times, but staying stuck costs more than you think. Smart, capable people drown in information, needing clarity, not more productivity hacks. When resources are limited, knowing your goals is crucial—stop wasting time and energy.
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
Life coaching is more than just advice; it's a transformative experience. When I first attended a life skills course, I was skeptical of the value it would bring. However, the knowledge and skills I gained from my life coach changed my perspective and helped me achieve my goals. Today, I'm grateful for the opportunity to have a life coach who believes in me and helps me reach my full potential.
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here you may want to start at the beginning of my journey. If that interests you, click here 😊 The day I received my prescription July 9, 2019, I’m sitting in my car holding a piece of paper I’d been waiting over a year for. Looking at the prescription in …
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In this deeply personal post, Dean shares the journey of recognizing and accepting his transgender identity as an adult — and the fear, uncertainty, and inner work that came with it. From worrying about his role as a parent to untangling the complex relationship between gender identity and childhood trauma, Dean walks readers through the moments that ultimately led him to begin testosterone injections and step fully into his authentic self. But this post isn’t just about being transgender. It’s about the universal experience of hiding who you are — and what becomes possible when you stop. Through three key shifts (from performance to presence, external validation to internal navigation, and either/or to both/and thinking), Dean draws a powerful connection between his own self-discovery and the inner work that transforms anyone’s life. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by the fear of being truly seen, this post is for you.
Looking Back - I Should've Known By the time I was 21, I was married with 2 kids. Aside from being young, which of course I thought I wasn't, I was living the dream. Nice house, a husband, two kids, a dog and a cat. I was working at a job I enjoyed with people …
