It’s time to build a life that feels like yours
Therapy can be life-changing, but sometimes healing isn’t the destination, it’s the beginning. In this post, I explore the difference between therapy and coaching, why lived experience matters, and how coaching can help queer and transgender people move from understanding themselves to building a life that truly feels like their own.
As a queer trans guy who began transitioning at 40 and started HRT at 42, I've come to an important realization that I want to share with all of you: trans people don't transition for others, we transition for ourselves. Creating My Own Path One of the most liberating aspects of coming out later in …
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I remember the first time someone called me "chosen family" out loud. We were sitting around a table after one of the early Community Connections mixers, and someone I'd known for maybe three months said it like it was obvious. Like it had already been true for a while and I just hadn't caught up …
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I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end of …
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What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.
To wallow is in direct contradiction of feeling empowered and I for one choose empowerment. Are you ready to take control of your life? Are you ready to celebrate this one life you’ve been given? Join me and let’s take a closer look at what it could mean to celebrate you!
Welcome Hi there, welcome to my little space on the internet. Is this your first time here? I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? Alright, if you’re all caught up let’s jump into the rest of my first 18 months on testosterone. The 5 early …
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
