Queer Your Way carries two meanings: being queer or trans on your own terms, and queering your way of life, stepping outside the norm, whether or not you're queer. Here's why both matter.
What Does It Actually Mean to Queer Your Way?
One Foot In, One Foot Out: Why Halfway Doesn’t Actually Feel Safer
There’s a specific kind of stuck that isn’t hiding, and isn’t pretending either. It’s living out, just not fully open, because the people around you haven’t quite made room for all of who you are yet, so you hold part of yourself back to keep things comfortable.
Two Years Ago, We Started Over
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If you’re facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life you’re trying to build—even before you feel certain.
The Year We Said Yes (and No) And How It Changed Everything
Saying yes/no with intention has transformed our lives. We've learned that by rejecting obligations that drain us and embracing those that align with our passions and values, we've been able to grow, learn, and achieve things we never thought were possible. This journey has taught us that our happiness and well-being are worth prioritizing, and it's a message we're excited to share with the world.
What I Know Now That I Wish I’d Known Then: The Coming Out Edition
Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.
Full Circle: Why I Left Life Coaching, Went Back to University, and Came Back Knowing This Is Exactly Where I Belong
A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling — queer and trans life coaching. There's a question I've been sitting with lately — one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a …
“Hire a Life Coach? In This Economy?”
Life coaching might seem indulgent during tough economic times, but staying stuck costs more than you think. Smart, capable people drown in information, needing clarity, not more productivity hacks. When resources are limited, knowing your goals is crucial—stop wasting time and energy.
The Real Reason Your Team Isn’t Thriving—And What to Do About It
Why psychological safety and inclusive leadership aren’t just buzzwords—they’re your business advantage. There’s something I see all the time in organizations—great people, with strong technical skills, doing their best… and still struggling.Struggling to retain top talent.Struggling to build cohesive teams.Struggling to create a culture where people truly want to stay and grow. If that feels …
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DEI Training: Beyond One-Size-Fits-All
Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) training has become a cornerstone of modern workplace culture, but here’s the reality: what works for a tech startup won’t necessarily resonate with a manufacturing plant, and what engages recent graduates may fall flat with seasoned executives. Why Context Matters Every organization has its own unique culture, challenges, and demographic …
Coming Out
Looking Back - I Should've Known By the time I was 21, I was married with 2 kids. Aside from being young, which of course I thought I wasn't, I was living the dream. Nice house, a husband, two kids, a dog and a cat. I was working at a job I enjoyed with people …
