Full Circle: Why I Left Life Coaching, Went Back to University, and Came Back Knowing This Is Exactly Where I Belong

A journey through doubt, growth, and coming home to my calling — queer and trans life coaching.

There’s a question I’ve been sitting with lately — one that makes me smile now, even though it once would have made me wince. Did I really spend years at university, just to come back and become a life coach for queer and trans people?

The short answer? Yes. Absolutely yes. And I’ve never been more certain of anything in my life.

For the last six months, I’ve been back doing the work that has always felt most like home to me — life coaching for queer and trans people. But to understand why coming back matters so much, you need to understand why I left in the first place.

Where It All Began

Years ago, I was a life coach working specifically with queer and trans folks. This wasn’t a niche I stumbled into by accident — it was a calling. There is something profoundly meaningful about walking alongside someone as they step into their fullest, most authentic self. For the queer and trans community especially, that journey can come with layers of complexity, grief, joy, fear, and liberation that deserve a space entirely our own.

I loved that work deeply. But somewhere along the way, I stopped believing in it. Or more honestly — I stopped believing in myself.

When I Stopped Believing in My Own Calling

The doubt crept in quietly at first. Was life coaching a “real” career? Was I taken seriously? Was I taking myself seriously? I started to feel like I needed something more conventional — more credentials that the world would recognize, a career path that looked professional on paper.

So I made a decision that felt rational at the time: I went back to university to study Business, with a focus on Human Resources Management. If I couldn’t trust my calling, at least I could build something that looked stable and credible from the outside.

And I want to be honest about that, because I think a lot of people do exactly this — we talk ourselves out of the work that lights us up because we’ve internalized the idea that passion alone isn’t enough. That we need to be more “serious.” That we need to fit into a shape the world already recognizes.

What Business School Actually Taught Me

Here’s the thing I didn’t expect: studying Human Resources Management turned out to be quietly, profoundly relevant to everything I had left behind. HR at its heart is about people — understanding them, supporting them, creating environments where they can thrive. Sound familiar?

I learned about organizational behaviour, about how systems either support or harm the people within them. I developed a sharper understanding of workplace dynamics, power, inclusion, and the very real barriers that queer and trans people face in professional environments. I gained fluency in the language of business that my clients live and work inside every day.

What I thought was a detour was quietly becoming a deeper foundation. I just couldn’t see it yet.

The Question That Stopped Me in My Tracks

As my studies drew to a close, I started to feel something I hadn’t felt in a long time — that familiar pull. Back to coaching. Back to my community. And with it came the question, loud and a little uncomfortable:

“Did I really go back to university for all those years just to become a life coach again?”

I sat with that for a while. And then I realized — the question itself was missing the point entirely. I wasn’t coming back as the same person who had left. I was coming back with years of learning, a business education, a deep understanding of the professional world my clients navigate, and — most importantly — a hard-won belief in my own calling that I had earned back through the long way around.

Losing faith in yourself and finding your way back to it is not a weakness. It’s one of the most human things there is. And it turns out, it also makes you a far better coach.

Six Months In: What I Know Now

For the past six months I have been back in the coaching space, working with queer and trans clients. And I can tell you that everything came with me. The empathy I always had. The safe space I always created. And now, a richer understanding of the business world, workplace systems, professional identity, and the unique pressures that queer and trans people face in every area of their lives.

Our experience as queer folks is not monolithic. It intersects with career, family, identity, mental health, relationships, and so much more. Having a broader, more grounded foundation means I can show up for that complexity with more skill, more confidence, and more conviction than ever before.

This is exactly where I’m supposed to be. And I’m just getting started.

Could This Be For You?

If you’re a queer or trans person who is ready to do some real, meaningful life work — whether that’s finding clarity on your path, working through a transition (in any sense of the word), rebuilding confidence, or simply having a space where you are fully, unconditionally seen — I would love to connect with you.

Life coaching isn’t therapy, and it isn’t advice-giving. It’s a collaborative, forward-moving process where you are the expert on your own life, and I’m here to help you unlock what you already know within yourself.

Reach out. Ask questions. Let’s have a conversation. You deserve a space that truly gets it — and I’d love for that space to be with me.

Full circle. No regrets.

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