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It’s time to build a life that feels like yours
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If you’re facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life you’re trying to build—even before you feel certain.
Discover what truly makes a 10 in your life! Often, we're conditioned to chase societal milestones, but your 10 is unique to you. Imagine waking up excited, having meaningful friendships, and feeling comfortable in your skin. These are the moments that matter most, and they define a fulfilling life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start defining your own success. Your 10 is personal, and it's up to you to make it a reality.
Many trans people say being trans is the least interesting thing about them, and I understand why. But if I’m honest, I’m not sure that’s true for me. After all, I’m a man who birthed five babies. In this post, I explore why my trans experience has shaped some of the most interesting parts of my life, the lessons it’s taught me about authenticity, and how that journey influences the way I coach others.
Saying yes/no with intention has transformed our lives. We've learned that by rejecting obligations that drain us and embracing those that align with our passions and values, we've been able to grow, learn, and achieve things we never thought were possible. This journey has taught us that our happiness and well-being are worth prioritizing, and it's a message we're excited to share with the world.
There’s a moment most people recognize. You know what you need to do. You’ve known for a while. And yet you don’t do it. Most people call this self-sabotage. And they’re right. But what most people don’t know is why it happens. Or where it actually comes from. It’s not a willpower problem. It’s not a character flaw. It’s a pattern. And patterns, unlike character flaws, can change. In this post I’m breaking down what self-sabotage actually is, where it comes from, and the three targets most people don’t know about. Plus there’s a free webinar coming where we do this work together live.
“That’s just who I am” sounds like self-awareness. Most of the time, it’s the most convincing lie we tell ourselves. Your personality and your survival strategy aren’t the same thing. Every pattern you carry made sense once. It kept you safe, loved, and functional in a world that asked too much of you too young. But a strength overused becomes the way you self-sabotage. And you’re not in that room anymore.
Love is a powerful force that can transform lives. When we open ourselves up to receiving love, we allow it to heal and uplift us. But the path to self-love is not always easy. We must overcome our own doubts and fears, and learn to trust in our worth. By doing so, we can create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with ourselves and others.
Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual — and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit long after I thought I’d figured myself out. This one’s personal. If you’re somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think it’ll land.
If you’ve ever walked into a room and immediately started scanning to see if you belong there then you already know what I’m talking about. You’ve worked hard to get where you are. You’ve navigated systems that weren’t built with you in mind. You’ve learned to read the room fast, adapt quickly, and carry more …
Continue reading "You’re Not the Problem. But Your Saboteurs Might Be Making You Think You Are."
Saboteurs are mental patterns from our past that impact our present, particularly for queer and trans individuals. Understanding and addressing them can transform your life.
