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Itโs time to build a life that feels like yours
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If youโre facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life youโre trying to buildโeven before you feel certain.
Discover what truly makes a 10 in your life! Often, we're conditioned to chase societal milestones, but your 10 is unique to you. Imagine waking up excited, having meaningful friendships, and feeling comfortable in your skin. These are the moments that matter most, and they define a fulfilling life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start defining your own success. Your 10 is personal, and it's up to you to make it a reality.
Many trans people say being trans is the least interesting thing about them, and I understand why. But if Iโm honest, Iโm not sure thatโs true for me. After all, Iโm a man who birthed five babies. In this post, I explore why my trans experience has shaped some of the most interesting parts of my life, the lessons itโs taught me about authenticity, and how that journey influences the way I coach others.
Saying yes/no with intention has transformed our lives. We've learned that by rejecting obligations that drain us and embracing those that align with our passions and values, we've been able to grow, learn, and achieve things we never thought were possible. This journey has taught us that our happiness and well-being are worth prioritizing, and it's a message we're excited to share with the world.
Thereโs a moment most people recognize. You know what you need to do. Youโve known for a while. And yet you donโt do it. Most people call this self-sabotage. And theyโre right. But what most people donโt know is why it happens. Or where it actually comes from. Itโs not a willpower problem. Itโs not a character flaw. Itโs a pattern. And patterns, unlike character flaws, can change. In this post Iโm breaking down what self-sabotage actually is, where it comes from, and the three targets most people donโt know about. Plus thereโs a free webinar coming where we do this work together live.
โThatโs just who I amโ sounds like self-awareness. Most of the time, itโs the most convincing lie we tell ourselves. Your personality and your survival strategy arenโt the same thing. Every pattern you carry made sense once. It kept you safe, loved, and functional in a world that asked too much of you too young. But a strength overused becomes the way you self-sabotage. And youโre not in that room anymore.
Love is a powerful force that can transform lives. When we open ourselves up to receiving love, we allow it to heal and uplift us. But the path to self-love is not always easy. We must overcome our own doubts and fears, and learn to trust in our worth. By doing so, we can create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with ourselves and others.
Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today Iโm writing about everything I wish Iโd known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual โ and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didnโt fit long after I thought Iโd figured myself out. This oneโs personal. If youโre somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think itโll land.
If youโve ever walked into a room and immediately started scanning to see if you belong there then you already know what Iโm talking about. Youโve worked hard to get where you are. Youโve navigated systems that werenโt built with you in mind. Youโve learned to read the room fast, adapt quickly, and carry more …
Continue reading "Youโre Not the Problem. But Your Saboteurs Might Be Making You Think You Are."
Saboteurs are mental patterns from our past that impact our present, particularly for queer and trans individuals. Understanding and addressing them can transform your life.
