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Itโs time to build a life that feels like yours
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If youโre facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life youโre trying to buildโeven before you feel certain.
Discover what truly makes a 10 in your life! Often, we're conditioned to chase societal milestones, but your 10 is unique to you. Imagine waking up excited, having meaningful friendships, and feeling comfortable in your skin. These are the moments that matter most, and they define a fulfilling life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start defining your own success. Your 10 is personal, and it's up to you to make it a reality.
Many trans people say being trans is the least interesting thing about them, and I understand why. But if Iโm honest, Iโm not sure thatโs true for me. After all, Iโm a man who birthed five babies. In this post, I explore why my trans experience has shaped some of the most interesting parts of my life, the lessons itโs taught me about authenticity, and how that journey influences the way I coach others.
Saying yes/no with intention has transformed our lives. We've learned that by rejecting obligations that drain us and embracing those that align with our passions and values, we've been able to grow, learn, and achieve things we never thought were possible. This journey has taught us that our happiness and well-being are worth prioritizing, and it's a message we're excited to share with the world.
โThatโs just who I amโ sounds like self-awareness. Most of the time, itโs the most convincing lie we tell ourselves. Your personality and your survival strategy arenโt the same thing. Every pattern you carry made sense once. It kept you safe, loved, and functional in a world that asked too much of you too young. But a strength overused becomes the way you self-sabotage. And youโre not in that room anymore.
Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today Iโm writing about everything I wish Iโd known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction. The word demisexual โ and why finding it quietly changed things for me. And the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didnโt fit long after I thought Iโd figured myself out. This oneโs personal. If youโre somewhere in your own process of becoming, I think itโll land.
I used to proudly identify as a highly sensitive person and an empath. Then I learned those traits were rooted in unhealed trauma - and instead of shame, I felt relief. Because it meant I could change. In this post, I share the unpopular truth about sensitivity, people-pleasing, and what it really means to turn your empathy into a gift.
I donโt love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
If youโve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesnโt believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isnโt a real thing? Hmmm, thatโs an excellent question and perhaps by the end of …
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