It’s time to build a life that feels like yours
We often think we need to follow a certain path to achieve happiness. But it's like wearing a great pair of shoes that are a size too small. They look perfect, but they don't fit. Eventually, we learn that doing everything right and being ourselves might different things. It takes time to see this clearly, but it's worth it. Check your picture of a good life. Most of it was taught to you. Be curious, and notice what's actually true.
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If you’re facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life you’re trying to build—even before you feel certain.
Discover what truly makes a 10 in your life! Often, we're conditioned to chase societal milestones, but your 10 is unique to you. Imagine waking up excited, having meaningful friendships, and feeling comfortable in your skin. These are the moments that matter most, and they define a fulfilling life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start defining your own success. Your 10 is personal, and it's up to you to make it a reality.
Many trans people say being trans is the least interesting thing about them, and I understand why. But if I’m honest, I’m not sure that’s true for me. After all, I’m a man who birthed five babies. In this post, I explore why my trans experience has shaped some of the most interesting parts of my life, the lessons it’s taught me about authenticity, and how that journey influences the way I coach others.
Saying yes/no with intention has transformed our lives. We've learned that by rejecting obligations that drain us and embracing those that align with our passions and values, we've been able to grow, learn, and achieve things we never thought were possible. This journey has taught us that our happiness and well-being are worth prioritizing, and it's a message we're excited to share with the world.
Therapy can be life-changing, but sometimes healing isn’t the destination, it’s the beginning. In this post, I explore the difference between therapy and coaching, why lived experience matters, and how coaching can help queer and transgender people move from understanding themselves to building a life that truly feels like their own.
What is it like transitioning later in life? I came out as transgender at 39 after spending nearly four decades living as a woman, becoming a mom to five children, and trying to build a life that never quite felt like mine. In this post, I share my experience of transitioning later in life, how gender conditioning shaped my journey, why I still feel at home in many women’s spaces, and what I hope others questioning their gender identity can take away from my story. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or hoping to better understand the experiences of later-in-life trans people, you’re not alone.
